When our hopes are crushed in the painful reality of a failed relationship, the question in our heart can be, “Will I ever love someone again?” The lingering wounds of a lost love can rob us of hope and trick us into thinking that we won’t be able to forget that person and move on. But our hearts have a much larger capacity to love than we think and we can love again.
You see, when I had my first child Dallas, I loved him with such intensity because I had never known such love until I had him. Then 2 years later I learned that I was pregnant again. I remember a particular discussion with my husband one night. We feared that we couldn’t possibly love another child like Dallas. We were sad that our second child might be short-changed. But we were very surprised. Our second child was born and our love poured out for him with the same intensity as our first. And then our third child was born and again we experienced the newness of a fresh and intense love. We learned that our hearts keep enlarging and we keep loving more and more as God puts more people in our lives. If God gave me 20 children he would give me the ability to love each individually and intensely.
It’s the same with our relationships. There may be special people in our past that we love and we may always love them to a degree. But we can also love another person with an intense and special love that is specific to only them. I have widowed friends that have remarried and they can confirm this. When we have the author of love in our hearts, Jesus, we have unlimited love.
If you are still pining over a lost love and feel like you can never love again, give God a chance to show you differently. Have hope! Open your heart! God wants to show you something new and intense. He is the God who loved you before the world began and through Him you can have love for the people in you past love and an amazing love for someone new. Hope in God. The best IS yet to come!!