I am so grieved today. ANOTHER person has come to me in despair because they were told that they must carry the yoke of singleness for the rest of their life. In other words, they were told that they cannot remarry because they are considered the "guilty party" in their divorce. I want to cry every time I see someone who has to carry this burden. It is almost a sentence of death to them. Many people leave the church because of the condemnation they feel from this.
Well I have good news for you. God has seen your misery! He cares for you and his grace is greater than ALL your sin. If you are under grace, then you are no longer under law. Jesus ONLY condemned the pharisees and hippocrits because they chose the law for their righteousness - not him. He does NOT condemn those under grace. If you are feeling condemned, that is NOT from Jesus. When Jesus was speaking of divorce he was talking to those who wanted to remain under the law. That's why the Pharisee's asked, "Teacher, is it LAWFUL for a man to divorce his wife..." Now, if you choose to remain under the law, then yes, you must not remarry. But we have been set free! The law kills but the Spirit gives life!! By believing that you must perform the "work" of remaining single to maintain your righteousness, you place yourself back under the law and make grace of no effect. The ONLY answer to this is to find your righteousness in Christ alone. His work was completed when he said, "It is finished". Nothing was left undone. That means there is no further work for you to do. Just place your trust in him.
I know this is a very contraversial subject. I ask everyone seeking answers to seek God with your whole heart and I even suggest fasting. You will hear from God. Here are a couple of helpful links for further study: